It's not about the wife!

Some more perspective on Spitzer and the Mrs., from one of my gurus on such matters, Diane Sollee of smartmarriages.com, discussing another one of our mutual gurus, Dr. Frank Pittman:

"I didn't see the Today Show but dozens of you did and were appalled that Dr.
Laura was blaming the wife....I guess the thought is she didn't bake enough
pies or perform well enough in bed??  Or, maybe it's because she only gave
the Gov three daughters, no sons?  Puleeze!  As Frank Pittman points out, the
performance or non-performance of the wife doesn't predict squat when it
comes to infidelity.  Pittman says to look, instead, at what a man was
taught by his father and uncles (his tribe) about what it means to be a
successful man. Is a successful man the one with the most stuff including a
wife, kids and as many mistresses as he can afford and get away with?  Or,
is a real man one who is committed to his marriage, his family, his vows?
If you want to understand this whole Spitzer conundrum and what we can do
about it, I highly recommend you start with Frank's books: "Private Lies:
Infidelity & the Betrayal of Intimacy"; "Man Enough: Fathers, Sons & the
Search for Masculinity"; and, "Grow Up! How Taking Responsibility Can Make
You a Happy Adult" -- and IT his Smart Marriages keynote: "What Are Men for,
Anyway?"  You can order the keynote at 800-241-7785."

Comments

[Ann]

This is SO great! Awesome information.