Standing by your man, when the state’s tactic is to drive a wedge between the spouses and destroy the marriage, will be fatal, a mother finds. Allen v. Lynchburg DSS, unpublished, 13 VLW 939 (12/15/98).
As the list of offenses for which the state can take your children away and terminate forever your existence as a parent grows to truly scary proportions, the Court of Appeals is quick to demonstrate that it is fully on board with the DSS. It was O.K. for a trial court to terminate a mother’s parental rights because she did not agree that the stepfather’s physical discipline (belt) was bad for the child, nor that they had to be separated. Also, her neglect had previously caused the boy to be placed in foster care some years ago. Another reason is that at the beginning of this sad story her drug abuse caused her to neglect the child, and another termination ground is that this child now needs “structure and continuity,” whatever those may mean (assuming they don’t mean what all children always need). And finally, of course, it would be devastating to remove him from the foster home, which has had him for six years now. All of this satisfies the standard of § 16.1-283(B).