An interesting take, from the other side of the world, on numbers that seem tragicaly small from their point of view, but still very encouraging compared to what little we know about reconciliation here in the West. A common denominator is that, just as in the systems we used to have in some U.S. states two generations ago, they're trying to use the court system as a vehicle for reconciliation, but finding that in modern times most people are too polarized and fearful by the time they get to court.
Most divorce cases end in couples’ separation - The Indian Express, Sun Nov 06 2011
The past three years have not seen any major downfall in the number of divorce cases being filed in Chandigarh district courts. With most cases ending in separation of the two parties, the mediation centre in the district court, which is meant for reconciliation of the two sides, has proven to be of less significance. ... reconciliation has been a rarity in more than half of the cases where couples moved court against each other in the past few years. Advocate Harsh Tandon, one of the lawyers placed at the mediation centre said, “Reconciliation of the partners seeking divorce and settling their disputes through counselling remains the key endeavour in the judicial system. But there is huge shift in the attitudes of people now. The ego clashes and level of contempt among partners in most of the cases have been extreme. They are highly adamant.”
“In more than 90 per cent of the cases of Hindu Marriage Act we have dealt with, in past two years, we were unable to save the marriage tie,” added Tandon.
Further, former President of District Bar Association, Advocate AS Chahal said, “Once a person drags his life-partner to the court, the relationships tend to get sour. Over the years, the tendency of moving court for divorce has increased in the people. Marriage ties are being broken within a few months of marriage. The tolerance and ability to adjust is moving down.”