The Court of Appeals refuses to retroactively change the law to make all artificially-conceived children of gay couples legally be the children of both partners, saying that doing so would effectively destroy the exclusively parental rights which the appellant is seeking equal access to, and the distinctive value and meaning of marriage which the U.S. Supreme Court gave equal access to in Obergefell v. Hodges.
In Hawkins v. Grese, a cohabiting lesbian couple decided to have a child together, and one of them was artificially inseminated and gave birth. They did not do an adoption to formalize the other's legal status as a parent, and they never married. They raised the child together until their relationship ended in 2014. They informally shared custody for another two years, then the biological mother cut off the child's contact with the other, who then filed for custody and visitation. The juvenile court awarded joint physical custody, finding that removing one parent from the child's life was harmful to the child and caused behavioral problems.
On a de novo appeal, the Circuit Court found that while everyone involved agreed that Hawkins had standing to contest custody -- as a "person with a legitimate interest" if not as a parent -- she did not overcome the presumption favoring parents over non-parents, though it expressed "grave concern that separation from Hawkins "would cause [the child] continued harm." It did grant her visitation. Hawkins appealed to the Court of Appeals, claiming that it was unconstitutional to consider her a non-parent, and that “non-biological parents in planned families comprising same-sex couples and their children are in fact parents.”
As for current Virginia law, looking at various "areas within the Code of Virginia where parent is used, it is clear that the term 'parent' contemplates a relationship to a child based upon either the contribution of genetic material through biological insemination or by means of legal adoption. For example, the Code provides that parentage may be established by 'scientifically reliable genetic tests,' '[a] voluntary written statement of the father and mother made under oath acknowledging paternity,' or 'proof of lawful adoption.'” And the very statute that gives standing to people who are not parents, but have acted like parents in some ways, Code § 20-124.1, thus makes clear that they are not considered parents. So
Where custody disputes are concerned, the term “parent” is a relationship to a child only through either biological procreation or legal adoption. This ... is also consistent with the Commonwealth’s refusal to adopt wider parental definitions through other legal constructions such as the de facto or psychological parent doctrines ...
But is this constitutional, as applied to this family? The standard of review is rational-basis, either for a violation of parental rights or for sexual orientation discrimination, the Court of Appeals says.
First, the definition of parent does not discriminate between same-sex and opposite-sex couples. It could apply to a heterosexual couple who used artificial insemination and did not marry.
The relevant characteristics which classify here are entirely rational—people are considered parents on either biological or adoptive grounds, parties without these qualities retain a fair legal method to intervene if a parent - 10 - is unfit. Further, “[a] classification does not fail rational-basis review because it ‘is not made with mathematical nicety or because in practice it results in some inequality.’” ...
In Obergefell, the Supreme Court held only that same-sex marriage was a constitutionally protected right. ... , the entire basis of the holding of Obergefell is the significance and importance of marriage as an institution that should not be withheld from same-sex couples. Barring procreation or adoption, pre-Obergefell, different-sex marriages did not automatically result in the spouses becoming legal parents of each other’s children and the analysis of the Obergefell majority opinion does not compel a different conclusion with respect to same-sex marriages, far less unmarried couples of any sexual orientation.
Hawkins suggests that the “special facts and circumstances,” of this case provide an avenue for carving out an exception in this admittedly exceptional case. However, were we to do so, it is clear to us that the constitutional presumption of parental fitness would begin the process of suffering a death by a thousand cuts.
We certainly acknowledge that society has evolved new family structures while simultaneously concluding that qualitatively and quantitatively assessing which among a kaleidoscope of those structures should be given legal recognition is more properly the province of the people’s representatives in the General Assembly rather than the courts and Obergefell does not require a different conclusion.5 Were we to adopt the “know it when we see it,” “special circumstances” definition of parentage urged on us by Hawkins, it would open a Pandora’s box of unintended consequences to hold that a legal parent-child relationship is created simply by virtue of such factors as the amount of time a child spends with, or the strength of an emotional bond that exists between, another living in the same household. It is not hard to imagine profound consequences for society and the courts if a parent knows that an ex-wife, ex-husband, ex-boyfriend, ex-girlfriend, former nanny, au pair or indeed virtually anyone not related to their child through biology or legal adoption, can be placed on equal footing as a biological or adoptive parent solely through a significant emotional bond with the child.
Much of the Obergefell language Hawkins cites is aspirational, seeking normality for same-sex families. It would be ironic for us to hold that the very decision expressing these aspirations became a tool for the erosion of the object of its aspiration—a family structure based upon marriage. The logical fallacy of this approach is apparent as well, if restricting marriage to opposite sex couples was unconstitutional because it denied same-sex couples the “constellation of benefits” heterosexual couples received, it could not possibly also then require the redefinition of every star in that constellation.
Also, Hawkins is implicitly asking the court to treat her as if she had been married to the mother. But although this couple was not allowed to marry under Virginia law at the time, there was no evidence that that was the only reason they did not marry, i.e., that they otherwise would have married. "How retroactivity applies to the 'constellation of rights' discovered in Obergefell is a question which has not yet been answered, nevertheless, this principle of retroactivity does not license this Court to engage in forensic retrospective marriage construction."
Hawkins also claimed it was unconstitutional to deprive the child of the right to be raised and nurtured by both parents. However, generally only a parent has standing to defend a child's constitutional rights, and exceptions that give third parties such standing, to pursue a child's constitutional rights against the parents' will, are granted very rarely and reluctantly, usually when a child is being denied medical care, the Court notes. And sometimes, no one, including parents, is allowed to assert constitutional claims on a child's behalf.
The Court also upholds the finding that the presumption in favor of parents was not overcome. "This presumption favoring the parent is a strong one, and can only be rebutted by establishing certain factors by clear and convincing evidence, including “(1) parental unfitness . . . ; (2) a previous order of divestiture, . . . ; (3) voluntary relinquishment, . . . ; and (4) abandonment, . . . [and (5)] . . . a finding of ‘special facts and circumstances . . . constituting an extraordinary reason for taking a child from - 18 - its parent, or parents.’” Bailes v. Sours (1986). The harm to the child from having only visitation with Hawkins, instead of 50-50 or sole custody, does not compare with the harm in Bailes, where the natural mother was a virtual stranger to the child. And even if "psychological evidence shows that harm will necessarily flow from the severance of the relationship between herself and B.G.," "such severance is not a necessary outcome".
Hawkins v. Grese, Va. Ct. App. 2/13/18, citing the factually similar case of Stadter v. Siperko, 52 Va. App. 81, 661 S.E.2d 494 (2008).