In the conservative-populist revolution of the very late 1970s and the 1980s, conservative poor and middle-class whites were portrayed as self-respecting, too proud to take handouts, proud of their productive work, and rejecting the "victim/consumer" culture of the 1970s. As the 80s went on and as I grew up in a close extended family that was mostly in the building trades and stayed close to its rural roots, I was really disturbed to see so many of them spouting "conservatism" in a way that actually embraced the "victim" role -- seeing themselves as almost powerless and, even more disturbingly, not feeling at all responsible for anything their government did, for how it treated other kinds of Americans, or for how their own increasingly childlike, self-absorbed attitudes might affect minorities.
I think that to participate in civic life it's essential to feel that sense of responsibility, that your government represents you, and you're morally responsible for how its actions affect all Americans and the rest of the world, even while accepting that you only have a very little power over it and the democratic system usually won't enact exactly what you want. And that as an adult -- and it helps to think this way even as a child -- it isn't OK to say racist and xenophobic stuff just because it makes you feel good, resists political correctness, or gives you nostalgia for the days of your childhood even if some things were better then.
I've hardly ever seen these points made this way. But J.D. Vance talks eloquently about this and a whole lot more in an interview about his new book Hillbilly Elegy: A Memoir of a Family and a Culture in Crisis:
"The meta-narrative of the 2016 election is learned helplessness as a political value. We’re no longer a country that believes in human agency, and as a formerly poor person, I find it incredibly insulting. To hear Trump or Clinton talk about the poor, one would draw the conclusion that they have no power to affect their own lives.
"... Mamaw recognized that our lives were harder than rich white people, but she always tempered her recognition of the barriers with a hard-noses willfulness: 'never be like those a–holes who think the deck is stacked against them.'
"...Believing you have no control is incredibly destructive, and that may be especially true when you face unique barriers."